It all started on a balcony in Tamarindo, Costa Rica on December 7, 2012. Josh and I were a few days away from getting married and mere weeks away from celebrating our first year in business, running our affiliate marketing business together.
The sun had just set (which I Instagram'd), “Roots, Rock, Reggae” was playing in the background and we had just taken our first sip of our second drink.
As we tend to do, we started brainstorming new projects we could work on.
“Have you noticed how many people have been asking us how we make money lately?” I said to Josh.
He sipped his drink and nodded slowly.
I could sense the wheels turning.
After a few more silent moments of just looking at each other, we had it.
“What if we create a site that shares our story and shows other couples how to build a business online?” I said, progressively getting more and more excited at the thought.
“We could….but, what would we call it?” he asked.
“I don't know…” I murmured as I took another sip. “OH MY GOD! What if we called it Screw the Nine to Five?! You know, so we can show people that you don't HAVE to live a conventional lifestyle!” I all but screamed.
He just looked at me, with no expression for what felt like 5 minutes of silence before grabbing his laptop and diving into NameCheap.com.
“That URL is available! Should I buy it?”.
With a few quick clicks of the mouse, the Screw was born.
Sure, we didn't know what the hell to do with it once we had it, but the seed had been planted and the wheels were in motion.
It's now been 3 years since we first launched the Screw and it has been one hell of a journey, complete with ups, downs, failures, stresses and massive successes.
And while I'm oh-so-grateful for everything we've experienced over the last 3 years, there are a few (okay, 9) things I wish I had known when we first started the Screw.
Lesson 1: Surround Yourself with People Who “Get” It
Fortunately, we learned this one pretty early on, thanks to all the blank stares we would get when we would talk about our “internet business”.
I mean, you can only explain your entire business and answer the question “what will you do if this doesn't work out?” so many times before you start looking for new social circles full of like-minded people.
In fact, we shot a whole podcast episode around this topic because THAT is how often we've had to deal with this.
And I know we're not alone…
I hear this nearly every week in our FB group from other entrepreneurs who are struggling with feeling understood and accepted by their friends and family.
It's the whole reason we created our U Crews program (local mastermind and accountability groups) inside of Screw U—so members would have a network of other committed entrepreneurs to connect and bounce ideas with.
If you don't already have a group of business buddies, what are you waiting for? Hop into our free FB group and start meeting people, like yesterday.
Takeaway: Entrepreneurship can be a lonely journey. Do everything you can to find your people and foster those relationships.
Lesson 2: Stop Copying Other People
Oh man, this one was big for us!
You see, for the first 2 years of the Screw we followed what everyone else was doing online in the vain hopes it would work for us.
We would say things like…
“Oh, the most successful people do a couple of big launches per year and that's it? We need to do that!”
“Hmmm it looks like people are doing weekly webinars and selling one-off products…we should do that!”
“You know, I've heard people say that cranking out as much content as possible is the only way to build your business. We better get on that!”
You know what that did?
Left us with a business that didn't “feel” like us.
Instead, things felt stressful, forced and heavy.
And the minute we realized that we didn't have to do what everyone else is doing and we could forge our own path and create the kind of business we wanted to run is the minute everything started to click for us.
In fact, we talked about this with Amy Porterfield in this podcast episode earlier this year.
For us, this meant we stopped selling one-off products week to week and went all-in on creating our monthly membership community, Screw U; which has allowed us to generate predictable revenue in a more automated way, create a sustainable business we believe in and forge a community…no…FAMILY we feel honoured to know and support and love on.
And none of that would have happened if we continued to follow the pack.
Takeaway: Do you. Zero effs.
Lesson 3: If it Feels Heavy, Cut it
We had this ah-ha while on a walk in Florida last October.
You see, up to that point we had been consistently creating content (videos, podcasts, blogposts and pretending to like Periscope) for the sake of meeting an editorial deadline.
It felt heavy to us.
It was no longer enjoyable the way it used to be, we felt stressed by constantly looming deadlines and it wasn't moving the needle in our business in a measurable way.
So what did we do?
That means the only content we now create is strategic and deep-dive content that focuses on one subject at a time and leads into one of our automated sales funnels.
Purposeful. Enjoyable. Helpful for everyone.
Takeaway: When you're feeling overwhelmed or unsure of a decision, ask yourself: Does this feel heavy or light.
Deep down you always know.
Lesson 4: To Fail Is To Learn
Ahhh yes, “failure”.
It can be scary, disheartening, embarrassing and one of the most important lessons to experience.
And yet, I speak to so many entrepreneurs who are downright terrified to fail.
They want no part of it.
But here's the thing…
They are your turning point.
They serve as your ah-ha moment.
They are your sign that you need to course-correct and take another stab at something, but from a different direction.
Hell, looking back on it, our biggest failure (launching a product that no one bought, which we talked about in this episode) still stands out as one of our most pivotal moments in our business.
Because it forced us to realize that we can't just assume we know what people want, we have to ask them.
And we've used that lesson in so many ways to make our business more enjoyable, efficient and profitable.
From polling the members of our free FB group to find out what they need help with (so we can create funnels around it, as we outline in this post) to surveying our Screw U members to see how we can continue to improve the U experience…
Everything we do now is from a place of first-hand feedback, not guesswork.
Try it and get ready to feel an overwhelming sense of relief.
Takeaway: Don't assume you know what people want, ask them. And listen.
Lesson 5: Be Consistent and Persistent
If I could drill one thing into peoples heads it would be this…
Building a business online?
It takes patience.
It takes consistency.
It takes persistence.
It takes belief.
It takes sacrifice.
It takes gratitude, even when you feel as though you have nothing to be grateful for…
It takes an understanding that things don't happen overnight.
It takes time.
Probably more time than you think it should.
So don't beat yourself up because you think you're “falling behind”.
Everything has a time and if you stick it out, it will come.
Shit, I remember torturing myself back in 2013 and '14 because we hadn't yet reached the coveted $25,000/month mark yet.
I mean, everyone said it was so “easy”, so why weren't we there yet?
But here's the thing I didn't know…
To get to that point?
You need to go through some shit…
You need to get a few bumps and bruises…
And you need some experience under your belt so you can learn the specific systems you need to create an efficient business that allows you the space to work on those 25k-generating tasks.
Takeaway: Stay consistent, be persistent and it will happen.
Lesson 6: Hire for Attitude, Train for Skills
I'm not gonna lie…
Josh and I have made some poor hiring choices over the years.
I mean, shit, it can be hard to find the right people online who are both skilled AND a pleasure to work with.
From contractors who fall off the radar and don't respond for weeks to service providers who roll with an unspoken sense of entitlement that they are doing you a favour, it can be downright difficult to find that “perfect” person.
So what's the lesson we learned from all of our hiring hell?
Identify people who possess the kind of attitude and personality you want to work with and then train them on the specific tasks and procedures you want them to manage.
For example, we hired our right-hand lady, Heather (after having her as a Screw U member for 18 months) because we could see how much of a nurturer she was, how closely she paid attention to detail, always supported other members and consistently rocked a positive attitude.
Then once she joined Team Screw, we took the time to train her on the specific tasks we needed her to take on in her role.
She's a pivotal part of the Screw and we simply cannot imagine doing it all without her.
Takeaway: Learn to spot and hire the true stars and treat them well.
Lesson 7: Know Your Numbers
I truly wish we had learned this lesson years ago.
Hell, I wish I learned this in school!
Because here's the thing…
Knowing your numbers in business is paramount.
And I'm not talking paying attention to bullshit numbers like your email opt-outs, your “likes” or your open rate.
I'm talking the numbers that matter.
I'm talking the heartbeat of your business.
We learned this the hard way when we got slapped with a hefty tax bill in early 2015 and quickly realized that when it came to managing the money in our business? We were clueless.
We just didn't even know where to start, as we talk about in this podcast episode.
I mean, every accountant we talked to seemed to just spit jargon at us and talk in circles, which left us (especially me) feeling massively overwhelmed at the thought of even THINKING about our numbers.
It all just felt too real.
And then we found the book Profit First, by Mike Michalowicz.
I don't even have words for how much this book changed our entire perspective on money.
It was a game-changer.
No, a life-alterer.
Not to mention the audiobook is goddamn hilarious and packed with “holy shit I didn't know you could do that” actionable (and whip-smart) advice that helps you get real and honest with your money.
You see, so many of us start out in business believing that the system goes like this: revenue – expenses – taxes – owner's pay = profit.
Whereas the Profit First system suggests we approach it from this angle: revenue – profit – owner's pay – taxes = expenses.
Essentially, he teaches you how to ensure your business is always healthy, profitable and working FOR YOU, not the other way around.
That way you're not spending all your money each month because you think the only way to grow your business is to reinvest everything back into it.
If that scraping-the-surface overview made you think “hmmm I could be better with my money” then do yourself a favour and get the book.
After all, there is nothing worse than money stress.
Takeaway: Build a business that works for you, not the other way around.
Looking back over these lessons I realize how wild of a ride this whole entrepreneurship thang has been…
And you know what?
Even though I've had my fair share of moments where I wanted to give up, throw a temper tantrum, convince myself it was “never going to work” and spend the day ugly-crying, I would do it all over again.
Because nothing beats that rush you get when you make an impact in someone's life.
Here's to the next 3!
The other (cheekier) half of Screw The Nine To Five + a diehard traveler with our little guy Kai.